You make correct observations of the general seediness of this kind of thing, but I'm one of the few guys that's wholly uninterested in forming connections and friendships with these online content creators. I usually describe the content they offer as an interactive porn magazine, where the customer can dictate what they want and content can be tailored to the customer's specific preferences, and communities like these with highly niche kinks usually benefit the most from this service. It's a perk of the modern technological age that was unavailable to previous generations that viewed sexual content. One of the crazy ones I mentioned, Serina_, even once chided me for "only paying for content" and being uninterested in chats and not giving money just *because*. Hence I react negatively when they don't provide the content I pay for or pull off other chicanery. I'm definitely not one to grandstand on this, but I really don't get the guys that give them money *just because*. Money for content, that's all I'm interested in. But you're ultimately right about not attaching oneself to them in general, hence why I decided recently to delete my accounts on those sites. I don't regret the content I got, but the experience has run its course.