i wasn't surprised that your post got deleted. The moderators here (and they do have a pretty hard time, what with all the spam and the occasional outbreaks of abuse) seem to be very sensitive about racial issues. There was a thread a few months back in which I said how beautiful I think Indian women are (nothing derogatory at all), and it got deleted.

I agree with you. You're being perfectly intelligent and mature about this, and not at all racist. And maybe I've answered your original question, too.