"I think you have a deadly fear of intimacy. You are totally focused on hair, which doesn't talk, doesn't engage, doesn't interact, doesn't require anything. You've been to 100-plus women outside the marriage, again no intimacy or connection whatsoever. There's no interaction, there's no intimacy."

"This is the point where it has become an addiction," says Dr. Phil. "You've never learned how to intimately engage with somebody. And if you will work to develop those skills of dealing with this woman, this spirit, this personality, her needs, her wants, her thoughts, her feelings, intimately engaging with her, whether she's bald or has long hair or whatever. If you will learn to get over that fear and develop those skills, then you won't have a need for that whatsoever."

Dr. Phil tells him it starts with acknowledging his difficulty with sharing and engaging with his wife. "And you have to understand sex is not all about you," he says. "Sex is about giving, it's about sharing, it's about her as well is you." Dr. Phil encourages them to read Relationship Rescue, so Howard can learn how to create intimacy with his wife and Connie can help him along.