Hey JJ,
The key word in your post is "crazy". You can have a fetish about hair, even a strong one, without being crazy about it. The real sense of the word "crazy" should be taken into account here. If the ONLY thing you think about is hair, then maybe there is a little crazyness in your fetish. But if you REALLY, REALLY like it but can inter-relate with normally with other people then it could be "just" a fetish.
I am not taking the guy's (Dr. Phil's) defence even if it looks like it. I just like it when people use real facts when they get into a discussion.
The man never said that those who fantasize about women's hair are sick.
I am certain that he would aggree that attraction to long hair on a woman is a primal one for a man. Being attracted to specific female body part is also quite normal. these female attributes are normally signs of a healthy woman who can bear children, and this is still the #1 goal of all living beings on this planet.
I am presently in my summer vacation and I saw yesterday's show which talked about Extreme Sex Differences. The guest were couples that had big differences in the way they view sexual acts or sexual attraction. There was also a couple with a porn addict and a couple where the woman found sex to be dirty and gross.
I first checked out some facts (following my reading the replys and comments to this thread).
Dr. Phil McGraw has been maried for 28 years to his wife Robin. (Sorry Vino).
When you have a Ph. D. you can legally call yourself a Doctor. He is not an M.D. but a Doctor nonetheless. Medical Doctors are so prevalent in the ones using the "Doctor" attribute that many people confuse the term with only medical Doctors.
Here's what you can find on his web site : "Dr. Phil has a B.S, M.A. and Ph.D. in clinical psychology from North Texas State University with a dual area of emphasis in clinical and behavioral medicine. He has been a board-certified and licensed clinical psychologist since 1978."
In the country worldly reknown for ambulance chasers, I am sure that if these credentials were false, Dr. Phil would already have faced many court cases for false credentials. That is why I did not persue some investigations at North Texas University. So he is a Doctor and CAN play one on TV.
That should take care of the "Quack" factor.
As for the "bald" statement. That's just lame. I have the "Male Pattern Baldness" myself (I shave my head fully most of the time) and I verbally attact no males with full head of hair, so why should male with full head of hair should attact bald men. Don't forget here that I have the long hair fetish since I can remember and I am 45 now. I had all my hair until my very late 20's and was highly attracted to women with long hair way before that. I remember being 11 and day dreaming of being naked and laying on the flor of a room filled with long hair from girls at school.
Let's get back to the show itself.
You first should know what you are commenting about. For this, I just found the web page relating to that specific show:
Click on the link named: "What's the fetish really all about?" and you will get a small java window that will open with the first of six pages from the actual show.
If you read what was said during this part of the show you will see that Howard, the guy on the show, clearly has a "problem" with his hair fetish. He even pushes it to begin to carefully groom his own hair because his wife doesn't let him indulge his fantasies. (not covered in the web site)
"Fetishes are usually regarded as pretty harmless," Dr. Phil tells them. "They really don't create problems most of the time, but the issue is when they start becoming so strong that they interfere with your normal functioning, with your life, then that's a problem."
So Dr. Phil is not saying that most of us have a problem with emotional intimacy with women. He is saying that this particular man probably has that problem because of many aspects of his personallity. Including having slept with more that 100 women during his first marriage, including many prostitute. Dr. Phil's statement did not come from the man hair fetish only. But the man using the "non attractiveness of his second wife' shorter hair was another sign of the man's fear of intimacy.
My personal story.
I clearly remember focusing a lot on my former girlfriend's hair when we made love and one day she had it cut quite short on the top and it did clearly dimished what I liked to focus on when we made love. She did not like that and even mentioned that I liked her only for her hair, which was of course not true. We remained together for another 5 or 6 years and she did let her hair grow longer as she saw how much more attracted to her I was. I myself began to not just focus on her hair when we made love, even if it was probably still a big part of what brought me to my climaxes. Later, she acknowledged that she actually found herself quite more beautiful with longer hair.
I do know, now, that I need to be attracted by the full woman in order to be in a relationship with her. Yes, her hair still plays the number one part in me noticing her in the first place, but I try to get to know who she is as a person before letting myself considering to start a relationship with her. Sexual attraction alone to her hair will not make a relationship work. For me, she needs to have a beautiful personality, great smile (with nice natural "unbleached" teeth), natural breast (which I will find later), healthy (with a proportional weight), she needs to be passionate about a few things in life and driven to reach certain life goals.
Have a halthy hair fetish.
Alain