Hey there,

To some degree I can understand your opinion as I've felt this before.

Then again my solution is to have a bit more "loose": like what you described with her hair falling over your face or body ..the same feeling applies to me when her hair falls softly over my thing and is not just wrapped around (tight) like a rope.

In this case it is very soft and nice.

Even when you lay your (or her) hand around it, it stays soft as long as the whole thing is not tight, but generally has space to move.

But then again ...everybody sees this in a different light.

Just my two cents on it.

Best regards.