I'm autistic and I have a hair fetish as well. I think being vulnreable is really hard for men and we end up resorting to pornography addictions or websites like these to connect or feel heard. at least thats what ive resorted to. I really relate to the fantasy of getting hairjobs from the women in my life that arent my partner. I think its normal and human to but ive noticed its stemmed from a place of me dehumanizing and objectifying women and not respecting myself enough to really be vulnreable and communicate my kink/fetish with my girlfriend. since i have shes been nothing but supportive, I've already shown her my ponytail collection and shes been supportive but i havent asked if we could use them in the bedroom. Because for me my ponytails arent anything different than her vibrator, its not about me fantasizing about other women its just me using hair as a sexual tool, when i can seperate the tool from the person i find i can respect women more and not view them so much as sexual objects just for my pleasure. Anyways this is my autistic rambling hahaha.