I married my high school sweetheart after we dated for 6 years. She has lovely, soft, thick hair - when we first met it was just past her shoulders. Knowing how much I am into her hair, she gradually grew it out for me to just above her ass (just the length I like), and it's stayed there or thereabouts in the 11 years we have been married.

My wife knows about my hair fetish and indulges in it, in fact she enjoys it too. We both enjoy sex and experimenting, her long hair always at the center of it.

All good right?

Like all couples, we have our fights. Some small. Some big. Last week we had a really big one. A lot of things were said in the heat of the moment. In that same heat of the moment, my wife stormed out of our aparment, and came back about four hours later with her hair in a bob.

I was shattered. She told me she did it out of anger, to "punish" me. Because she was so mad at me at the time (we don't even remember what we were fighting about). She regrets it big time (she did already the same evening when she came home), and says she wished she hadn't done it. But it was already done. Years of growth, gone in one instant.

We are good now - all is forgiven, and back to being loving with each other. Except for one thing. I have not been able to maintain an erection with her since this whole thing happened. I love her dearly, still find her incredibly pretty even with her bob (which is actually very nice), it just seems like I am not aroused enough like I used to. Her hair I guess was always what got me going, and now, that it's no more, even though I love her, I am not aroused enough, for some reason.

I know I sound shallow. What's happening scares me. And her too. She's still the same person of course. Like I said I still love her very much. And she me. We are affectionate, cuddle, kiss, hold hands in public. Like how it has always been. Except now I just can't seem to get erect when we try to have sex. We've tried everything.

Is this possible? Can this fetish be so strong that it makes one unable to be aroused with the person he has been with and in love with for 17 years, just because the object of his fetish is no more?

Has anyone else ever experienced this, or anything similar, with a loved one?

WHAT DO I DO???