I hope to get some advise from my fellow long hair loving brethren here.

Please take this post seriously as I am sincerely asking this.

I am 32 years old and have been sexually active since I was 21, in which time I have been with 5 partners (at different times of course!). The first 4 did not excite me from their hair point of view (most were short or shortish haired), but I was attracted to them in other ways, and of course emotionally I had strong feelings with each one, which was mutual.

Now I am in a different zone for the first time. For the past 8 months, I am dating a girl who has hair to the middle of her back, it is very soft, silky and thick. I feel I am in heaven. And she is also pretty and a very nice person. After 2 months of dating, we took it to the next level, and we have been sexually active for 6 months now.

My problem is, because I am so turned on by her hair, I am not able to last very long when I am in her. This has never been a problem with the 4 previous women I have been with. My current girlfriend does not like missionary as it hurts her (even if I am gentle), so we only do cowgirl (her favorite) and doggy (my favorite). In both these positions, I am able to fully indulge in my fetish for long hair and my lifelong dreams of long hair are completely fulfilled - when she rides me her hair is falling on my face and chest and it feels amazing, when I am in her from behind I love to gather her hair and pull on it gently while thrusting, which she also likes. And because of the amazing sensation I get from both positions from a "hair" point of view (which as mentioned I have never had before) I reach orgasm in less than a minute from the first actual penetration. And in 9 times out of 10, this is (not surprising...) too short for my girlfriend to reach her own orgasm.

How can I change this and "control" myself longer? As I said I never had a problem lasting before with women whose hair in itself did not turn me on. I have been a closet long hair fetish all my life and it is my strongest fetish (even I love boobs and oral sex a lot too), even an obsession maybe, and now it seems that when I finally get to experience and enjoy it in the flesh, I am not able to cope, and also not able to satisfy my lady.

What can I do? Is there anything out there to maybe make the penis less sensitive so that orgasm can be "delayed" during intercourse? Are there techniques to prevent coming too soon? I have tried to take things slow when I feel I am ready to come, that does not work. Also, it is a bit embarrassing when I am only in her for like 10-15 seconds, that I need to pull out in order to try and prevent ejaculation.

I should also mention, both my girlfriend and I enjoy foreplay very much - not only kissing, but she likes having her boobs and nipples sucked and played with, I like to go down on her, she likes to blow me. Usually foreplay is at least 30-40 minutes before the first penetration. And then, in 20 seconds, I am done, when I want to go on MUCH longer and enjoy what we are doing. And, sadly, my girlfriend is left unsatisfied. And it is all her hair that is doing this - I am so turned on that I cannot control coming. While we are doing foreplay (including blowjob), even I play with her hair a lot, no problem. But as soon as there is penetration, I am in a hurry and done super fast and then get limp.

Anyone out there experience this before?

Please help - I want to satisfy my woman!