Anya,
I have been following you in one way or another for almost as long as you have been online (not that that means anything).
IMO, you're an absolutely gorgeous woman with or without long hair. Personally, I love your hair at the length in the picture of you in the sweater. The things you mention that you miss about it being all full and wild, the natural body, long bangs and so on are thing that I really like too!
I'm sure you'll end up at the best length for you, which is really the most important thing when its all said and done.
xoxo
C